Most divorces are NOT a result of a lack of love, a loss of desire, or a missing strategy. Marriages fail because the couple never learned how to be truly safe for each other. ReNew Marriage Retreat was created to change that.
Over one immersive weekend, couples discover the deeper patterns driving conflict, identify and begin to heal the childhood wounds they've carried into marriage, and learn to create the intimacy that holds a relationship together when strategies and willpower fall short.
Our time alternates between story-rich teaching sessions, and engaging in carefully designed couple activities, giving participants the time and space to begin applying what they're learning in real time.
Facilitators: Sandra Golling, LMFTA and Dr. John Golling, D.Min.
Licensed marriage and family therapist, Sandra Golling, and her husband Dr. John Golling, bring over 30 years of pastoral and marriage ministry experience, along with their own story, to create a biblically-based, non-threatening experience that equips couples to renew their journey toward true resilience, intimacy, and oneness in their marriage.
Marriage as a Safe Place — Understanding God's design for intimacy and what true safety in marriage actually requires.
Breaking the Cycle — Seeing marriage as a system: how couples co-create conflict patterns and how to interrupt them.
Childhood Wounds & Love Styles — How early attachment experiences and survival strategies surface in adult relationships.
Triggers, Projections & Survival Cycles — Mapping the emotional loop that turns small moments into major ruptures.
The Shame Beneath the Anger — Recognizing secondary emotions and meeting the deeper wound with curiosity and empathy.
Safe Vulnerability — Building a shame-free zone where both partners can share their truest selves without fear.
A Biblical Framework — Grounding all of the above in Scripture and a theology of redemptive covenant love.
Dates: November 20-22, 2026
Times: Check-in between 3:00 and 5:00 PM on Friday, Nov. 20th, last session ends on Sunday at 2:30 PM.
Location: Black Lake Bible Camp, located just 40 minutes from Tacoma, our venue rests on the shores of beautiful Black Lake in Olympia and features a newly remodeled lodge, bonfire lounge spaces, and outdoor activities including canoeing, hiking, and axe throwing. Couples stay in private, hotel-style rooms, each with their own bathroom, just a short walk from the lake, the meeting room, and recreation areas.
Facilitators: Sandra Golling, LMFT and Dr. John Golling, DMin
Cost: $550.
Includes 2 nights lodging in a private room, 6 meals, and all conference materials.
Registration fee is $550.
You may pay a $50 deposit today to reserve your spot. The remaining $500 balance will be invoiced and due by November 1.
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Includes couples ticket, 2 nights lodging, 6 meals, and all retreat materials.
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